The Power of Assumptions for Autism Parents
You Are Planting Seeds in Every Moment.
Are You Choosing the Right Ones?
By Stuart McGhie, Autism Father & Founder of Connecting Hearts
In our last conversation, we explored the Mirror Principle—the profound, life-altering idea that your child is a perfect reflection of your own consciousness.
The world you experience with them is a direct mirror of the beliefs and feelings you hold within.
This realisation is the first giant leap towards transformation. It’s the moment you stop trying to change the reflection in the mirror and start looking at the source: You.
But this raises a critical question: If your consciousness is creating the reflection, what tool are you using to build it? What is the raw material of creation?
The answer is simple. It’s your assumptions.
Every single day, in every single moment, you are making assumptions about your child, about your relationship, and about what is possible for your family. And each of these assumptions is a seed.
A potent, creative seed that you are planting in the fertile soil of your consciousness. These seeds, once planted, have no choice but to grow into the reality you experience.
The real question is: Are you conscious of the seeds you are planting?
The Unconscious Seeds of Disconnection
For most parents of nonverbal autistic children, the assumptions we carry are planted unconsciously. They are given to us by doctors, therapists, society, and our own fears.
We often don’t even realise we’re holding them.
Do any of these sound familiar?
• “My child is frustrated because they can’t communicate.”
• “He’s locked in his own world.”
• “She doesn’t understand what I’m saying.”
• “This is just how it is. It will never be different.”
• “We’ll never have a real, deep connection.”
These aren’t just fleeting thoughts. They are powerful, creative acts.
When you consistently assume that your child is frustrated, you will tune into every piece of “evidence” that supports that belief.
The mirror will reflect a frustrated child back to you, and the assumption becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
We think we are describing reality as it is, but we are actually creating the reality we are describing through the power of our persistent assumptions.
The Feeling is the Secret
So, how do we break the cycle? How do we start planting new seeds?
It’s not enough to simply think a new thought. You can’t just repeat “My child is connected” like a parrot while feeling the ache of disconnection in your heart. Consciousness is not fooled by empty words.
The legendary mystic Neville Goddard taught that “the feeling is the secret.”
To successfully plant a new seed—a new assumption—you must feel the reality of it.
You must embody the emotional state of your wish already being fulfilled.
What would it feel like if you knew, without a doubt, that your child was perfectly connected to you?
What would it feel like to understand their every communication?
What would it feel like to have the deep, joyful, easy relationship you’ve always dreamed of?
That feeling—that is the creative power. That is the water and sunlight that will make your new seed grow.
How to Plant Seeds of Connection (A Practical Guide)
This is where the real work begins. It’s time to become a conscious gardener of your mind.
Step 1: The Assumption Reversal
Go back to the list of limiting beliefs you identified last week. For each one, write a new, empowering assumption. This is its polar opposite. This is the new reality you are choosing to create.
| Limiting Assumption | Empowering Assumption |
| “My child is locked in their own world.” | “My child has a rich, beautiful inner world and invites me in every day.” |
| “We can’t communicate.” | “My child and I have a perfect, telepathic understanding.” |
| “He is so frustrated.” | “He is peaceful, joyful, and expresses himself with ease.” |
Step 2: Feel It Real
Don’t just read your new assumptions. Feel them. Close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths. And imagine your new assumption is already true.
What does it feel like in your body?
Let that feeling of joy, peace, relief, and love wash over you.
Linger in that feeling for as long as you can.
This is the most important part of the process.
Step 3: Play the “Wouldn’t It Be Wonderful If…” Game
Throughout your day, you’ll inevitably encounter moments that trigger your old, negative assumptions.
Instead of fighting them, use this simple, playful tool.
When you see your child struggling, instead of thinking, “Oh, he’s so frustrated,” catch yourself and gently ask, “Wouldn’t it be wonderful if he felt completely at peace right now?”
When you feel that pang of disconnection, ask, “Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we were sharing a moment of perfect understanding?”
This game instantly shifts you out of the problem and into the feeling of the solution. It’s a gentle, easy way to start planting new seeds without resistance.
Your mind is a garden. Your assumptions are the seeds. For too long, you may have been letting weeds grow unconsciously. But starting today, you can become a conscious creator. You can choose to plant seeds of love, connection, understanding, and joy.
Be patient with yourself. You are unlearning years of conditioning. But with every new seed you plant, with every moment you spend feeling your new reality, you are building a new world for you and your child.
In our next post, we’ll discuss Week 3: The Mental Diet—how to tend to your garden 24/7 and ensure that only your desired seeds are allowed to grow.
Ready to Become a Master Gardener?
Choosing new assumptions is the second major key to transformation.
In the Connecting Hearts book and course, you’ll get a complete toolkit for conscious creation, including:
• Advanced revision techniques to change any past or present moment.
• A deep dive into the 5 Universal Love Languages so you can see your new reality reflected back to you.
• A supportive community to help you stay accountable and celebrate your wins.
What is one limiting assumption you are ready to release, and what new, empowering assumption will you plant in its place? Share it in the comments below!
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